Dating for the divorced mom
I went out with a girlfriend in Montclair, NJ, to a fun place called Just Jakes. It was a little deceiving, sure, but I thought telling the guys I was a single mom would influence their answers—and I wanted raw thoughts.It was lovely being out sans Jack, having a cold beer at the bar, surrounded by other adults enjoying drinks, conversation, and music. I videotaped their answers, transcribed what they said, and here’s what I got: “It’s not the ideal situation for me.Other than that, she says, save the details about your children, your custody arrangements, your divorce, and your ex for when you know the person better.Instead, focus on topics that are easy to discuss and help you learn about each other.
"It's important to engage your village, friends, family who can support you with time-sharing and babysitting," Zane says.It's worth being upfront about the fact you have kids, Zane says.No date likes to be surprised by that info later on.You can't date the same way now as you did in your twenties, Baumgartner says.Since hitting the bars is out, start by "dating" for friends, Baumgartner suggests.